New Year Resolutions 2012 25 January, 2012
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It’s the time to set new resolutions again, so here are ours.
Joint
- Conceive Baby2
- Finish assembling 12 Gundam robots
- Increase passive income to $2500 per annum
- Buy 2nd property
Dear1
- Obtain class 2B license
- Finish postdoctoral application
- Kiss Dear2 everyday
- Submit 2 journal papers
Dear2
- Kiss Dear1 everyday
- Give Dear1 massage once every month
- Do face mask every 2 weeks
- Start writing a book
- Promotion / change job
Alright, these are our goals for this year. Let’s work hard to achieve all of them! Jiayou!
-Dear1
《回音》 Review 30 December, 2011
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Ahh… Let me recount this long overdue review of the stage production 《回音》 that we attended 4 Dec 2011 at the UCC, NUS.
First off, why did we want to attend this production? Well, there was one fundamental reason and one circumstantial reason. The fundamental reason was that, as a couple, Dear2 and I have been to numerous movies but had never been to any kind of stage performance events. Well, there was one which we attended during our first 3 months in NJC, and we sat next to each other, but we weren’t official going steady back then. So, it was like our long unfulfilled desire to finally attend a stage production (after 13 years together). The circumstantial reason was that, we’ve been listening to YES933 alot since we bought our car, and they’re been promoting this show alot on air, so we thought, why not? :)
Baby1 was 21 months old on then, so she was quite comfortable with her grandparents, and comfortable with us not being around for a while. On the day of the show, we brought her to my parents’ place and then set off for UCC.
Now, to the actual review bit.
I’ve been to UCC multiple times and know the layout of the hall quite well. But I was surprised upon arrival to find out that 《回音》 will not be using the main hall. Instead, they will use the side hall which I normally using as robing room for my convocation. That hall is really small and so it was a big disappointment for me.
The next big disappointment was our selection of seats. Because I had the main hall in mind when I selected the seats on SISTIC, I picked the $55 seats on the side because I knew the seats were comfortable and offer a decent view of the stage. This is not true for the side hall. First, the seats were make shift chairs, very uncomfortable. Second, there was a huge pillar right next to our seats and blocked off the one-third of the stage nearest to us. This meant that we had to lean forward and stretched our necks to see what is happening on stage throughout the show.
This was to be followed by even more disappointments with the actual show itself. I’ll break it down into three major categories.
First, the marketing efforts overhyped the production. I had my expectations high going in, only to be met with disappointment. For example, Jiahui on 933 mentioned that there was scene where she and her two fellow performers were able to complement one another and enabled an emotional performance. I found that scene too slow and not touching. So did Dear2.
Second, too many unnecessary characters. Going in, I know that this was a collaboration between 933, 958 and 972. But there was simply too many characters that had nearly no impact on the story. For example, the character played by Nicole Chua from 933 could have easily been removed and not affected the story at all. Also, there was no real need to change performers for the different ages of the characters Youying and Youguang. If Chong Qing from 933 could handle his character from young to old, why not the others? I think the casting crew simply overstretched themselves to include as many DJs as possible so as to make it look more like a collaborative effort amongst the 3 radio stations.
Third, the story was rather weak. 《回音》 was marketed as a celebration of 75 years of radio transmission. Naturally, I expected the show to focus on radio and perhaps the history of radio and the evolution of radio. Nope. The show seemed to instead focus on how radio brought together a pair of love birds, and eventually how the wife overcome her depression of losing her husband. I had heard an interview before the show in which the director claimed the story as touching. However, I found the story thin and lacks emotional connection.
Despite all my disappointments, I still had a good time because I was attending this with Dear2 and we’re fulfilling one of our long time dream. We also had lots of fun criticizing the show in unison on our ride back home and over the next few days. Well, this goes to demonstrate that it doesn’t matter whether the show/performance/movie is good or not, it’s who you are watching it with that matters.
-Dear1
我希望家人都身体健康 5 December, 2011
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Since I was very young, I had always made the same wish – the one you see in the title of this post.
I can’t remember when the seed was planted, but it was probably during one of the many praying sessions that I had to attend with my parents when I was really really young. Maybe a times, we were praying to ancestors and I was asked to include a wish in my prayers. Naturally, I didn’t really know what to wish for and asking for toys seemed ridiculous to me. Back then, I kinda remembered my father telling me to wish for good health.
And it got stucked. Year after year, I would mindlessly pray for good health for all my loved ones around me. Be it ancestral session, birthdays, shooting stars, my wish was and is always one and the same.
I have been feeling rather emo for this past year. Because of the various health issues that had came up for me and the people around me. Well, for one thing, Dear2 had been to the hospital twice this year. It breaks my heart to see Dear2 having to go through all that. I did what I could. But, what else could I do than to be there by her side, and wait. I wish that it will never have to occur again.
For another, Dear2, Baby1 and I had been down with illnesses for nearly the past 2 months. Baby1 caught a cold/flu from somewhere and caused allergic reactions. She would vomit nearly everyday. She can’t control their cough and her gut reflexes at this age. She would wake up twice a night coughing because of the allergy, sometimes vomiting too. Thankfully, she had recovered after a third visit to the doctor.
Dear2 and I had been falling sick one after another. I fell sick first with flu that wouldn’t recover for 3 weeks. Dear2 also had flu but she recovered after a week. Then I had stomach flu and/or food poisoning just a few days after my last flu, just last week. And right now, Dear2 is feeling pain and unwell again, which the doctor could provide no proper explanation nor remedy except perhaps to drink water and rest well.
This is besides having to cope with minor health annoyances like joint pain, blood pressure, headaches, toe infection, weight gain, skin infections, and just general tiredness.
I feel that age is catching up with me, in two ways. First, all the health problems, albeit minor ones. Second, I’m starting to appreciate my father’s simple advice – just wish for good health.
I’m not saying that I understand the feelings of those who went through life threatening events. I’m just saying that I am able to see how priceless health and general well-being is.
This will continue to be my one and only wish.
-Dear1
p.s. Get well soon Dear2, I love you.
Landing in Shanghai 21 November, 2011
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I will write about some of the observations that I have made during my time in Shanghai.
I landed at Pudong Airport in the mid afternoon. Well, the first thing that caught my eyes was that the immigration card was really easy to fill in; no extra questions about bringing in animals, plants, etc.
The immigration check took some time, and so did the luggage collection. Once I stepped out of the arrival hall, however, I was greeted by a horde of people. There were just lots and lots of people lining the walk-out aisle, holding up name boards. Some of them were simply holding hotel names, I wonder who they were actually expecting. Anyway, the crowd did gave me a little surprise and it almost felt like I was a movie star, except without the flash photography.
I made my way past the crowd and went to the tourist information counter. A man approached me to try to sell his taxi service. Naturally, I ignored him as it is likely to be a scam. I then made my way towards the Maglev station. There, I bought a one way ticket for 40RMB (discounted price for passengers who landed on the same day)
It was my first ride on the Maglev train, and a rather short one at that. The train accelerated to 430km/h before decelerating to a stop shortly thereafter. I think the entire trip was less than 10mins. But wow, the ride was really smooth, and the train felt really fast. The tracks even tilted at the bends to accomodate the fast moving train.
At the Maglev station, I needed to walk to the next building to take the city metro (Longyang Road Station). It was here that I first noticed there wasn’t any lifts around. That meant taking trains in Shanghai with luggage is definitely a bad idea. Luckily, my luggage was light, so no big problems for me.
It was at Longyang Road Station that I first encountered the bad and the good of the people here. I had wanted to buy a Shanghai Public Transportation Card (as oppose to a single trip ticket), so I approached a young lady in the queue, asking if I could buy the Transportation Card if I joined the queue. To my surprise, she promptly turned away, raise her hand to cover half her face so that I can’t see her, and snorted “I don’t know”. I maintained my poker face, but in my mind, I was thinking WTF? However, in a split second, another young lady further front in the queue turned towards me and asked what I wanted to know. Ah, a kind soul! And she replied that I could indeed purchase the Transportation Card if I joined the queue.
And so I did. When my turn came, I was greeted by yet another surprise. The sale cashier told me rudely that the card was not sold there, without even looking at my face when she talked. And she ended her conversation right there. I asked where I could purchase the card. She pretended to be deaf. I asked again, and she hastily replied, “Line 7″. Line 7 was in the next building. Nay, I decided not to risk it, I’ll just get a single trip ticket.
I went to the ticketing station and read the English instructions, and slowly went about my purchase with the machine. Suddenly, someone approached from behind me, and attempted to help me insert my flimsy dollar note into the ticketing machine. At first, I rejected. But after numerous attempts and the machine still refused to accept my note, I decided to let him give it a try. He, too, took numerous attempts, flipping the note in every orientation, but he succeeded eventually. I thanked him and walked off.
This was when he sprung the trap on my unwary mind. He rushed before me and show me a nicely laminated note, written in English “I am deaf, please contribute and help” (to that effect). Again, in my mind, WTF? I was caught offguard once again. Overcame by embarrassement, and regretting accepting his help earlier, I reached for the small change and gave him a 10RMB note. On hindsight, I realized that I wasn’t very accustomed to the local currency and purchasing power yet. For it was only some time later that I calculated and realized that I might have been too generous. Sigh… Silly me.
I was lucky to board a train that was rather empty, so I had a seat. And I noticed that the seats in Shanghai don’t have “buttock shapes” delimiters. Meaning, a row of seat is simply a flat bench, without clearly demarketed seat widths. I managed to get a corner seat along one of the long benches and I began to observe how other people handle this situation. (On a later trip on the metro, I also noticed that the newer rolling stocks did have the “buttock” delimiters.)
Well, rather unsurprisingly, people entering the train simply rushed in with tenacity without giving others a chance to alight first. Once in the train cabin, they literally run to grab any empty space on the seat bench. And if there was some empty spaces between seated passengers, the incoming person will give a shout and motion the seated passengers to make way for him. Wow. Culture shock. But I can appreciate such behaviour. After all, in such a competitive and crowded society, I expect only the fiercest will survive.
I alighted at my stop, People’s Square Station and started making my way to my hotel. It was here that I noticed a middle age man ransacking a dustbin. It turned out that he was searching for drinks. I watched as he picked up every can, packet, cup of drink he could find and emptied whatever remaining contents into his mouth. I raised an eyebrow. Really? No money for water? But he looked quite able bodied as he stomped off in an agressive walk after his ‘feast’.
A little further along, I noticed this time an old lady, searching a rubbish bin. Nope, she wasn’t collecting metal tin cans. Neither did she eat or drink anything she found. In the end, she left empty handed, so I wasn’t quite sure what she was looking for. A begger? I’m not so sure.
After I checked in to my hotel, I walked outside again for dinner. I spotted a BreadTalk shop along the streets and decided to give it a try just to see if it tasted any different. There was an alfresco section just outside the shop so I decided to sit down and just people watch while I eat my bread. Unfortunately, just minutes after I sat down, I would be harrassed by a begger. He kept asking me for loose change. Well, I just pretended I couldn’t understand Mandarin. I quickly left after gobbling down my bread. So much for people watching.
Several days later, while walking along Nanjing Rd, I would be stopped by an unassuming young lady. I thought that she had wanted to ask me for directions. Nope, I was wrong, she’s a begger. And she followed me for almost the next 100 metres or so begger me to buy her food and pleading for my charity. I just ignored her and walked on, no sympathy required here.
During my stay, I had the opportunity to visit the riverside where the Oriental Pearl Tower could be seen. The riverside promenade was well renovated, spacious and clean. However, I was taken aback by just how crowded it was there on a Monday and Tuesday evening. The riverside walk just wasn’t serene at all, it was rather noisy with too much activity going on.
The last thing I will talk will be my experience with the people. Sad as it was, the fact is that there are far too many PRC in Singapore. Everywhere in Singapore, you see and hear PRC in the roles of cashier, waiter, house keeper, cleaner, sales personnel, drivers, or simply pedestrains. And it saddened me that I experienced that same familiarity in Shanghai. I did not feel the sense of travel and the sense of being in a different geographical location. It all felt just the same, as if I had never left Singapore. Nope, it wasn’t heart warming at all.
It is heart breaking.
For just this last reason alone, I will not want to visit China for a holiday. There is simply no sense of travel being in a place not that different, in more ways than one.
-Dear1
A Trip Alone 14 November, 2011
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I woke up at 7am, and gazed at Baby1 sleeping next to me. My eyes watered involuntarily at the thought of not being able to do the same for the next 5 mornings. I was going to Shanghai for a conference for the next 5 days. It would be the first time I had to travel without my family.
I was on a morning flight, so that meant I had to ready myself to set off for the airport soon. Initially, I had hoped to leave the house before Baby1 woke, but that was not to be. Baby1, with her well tuned bio-clock, woke up as usual at around 7.15am. That meant I had a bit of time to interact with her before I had to leave.
Maybe her baby sense told her something, but I found Baby1 unusually quiet and solemn this morning, her baby hands lightly stroking my back while I carried her. Maybe she saw my watery eyes.
My bags were packed the day before, so there was no last minute rush at all. However, the timing was tight and I really had to leave for the airport. Dear2 and Baby1 accompanied me to the void deck, my parents were there to drive me to the airport. A kiss to Baby1 and a kiss to Dear2, and I boarded my parents’ car. I wondered if Baby1 understood, she did looked rather puzzled, with just a touch of unhappiness. My eyes watered again.
Suddenly, I remembered seeing this Japanese girl on the Keisei Skyliner on our way to Narita airport during our Japan trip. She was carrying a large luggage and tearing most of the way on the 1+ hour train ride. As an observer, it was easy to tell that she was leaving her family and probably won’t be back in a while. Today, I felt that I could better appreciate her feelings that day. Eventhough my trip was short, I think the emotions are similar, strong and deeply rooted.
Today, I had learnt yet another valuable lesson of life, and gained a drop of wisdom.
-Dear1
The Lure of $2 30 October, 2011
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- Square porcelain plates
- Round Japanese bowls
- Dustbin for kitchen and bed room
- Tub for sink
- Baskets for laundry pegs
- Baskets for putting make up and stuff
- Wall suckers for bathroom and kitchen
- Horizontal rod for hanging kitchen tools
- Potato masher
- Kitchen gloves
- Big paper boxes for storing small items
- Food containers
- Small handheld broom and dustpan
- Big plastic bowls for baking
When we first moved into our house, equipping everything from scratch often leads us to buying these household essentials from Daiso. At that time, money was scarce for us, so with each item at just $2 per piece, these were very affordable for us yet stylish. Many a times, there were even cents to dollars of savings as compared to buying the same item elsewhere, or simply as a cheaper alternative.
Over time, we would often frequent Daiso whenever we need to get more household essentials:
- Laundry bags (I think we have about at least 8 now)
- Large zip lock bags for overseas purposes
- Containers for storing Dear1′s meeples and tokens (I think he has bought at least about 7 to 8 boxes in all)
- Apron (my second piece already, just because the first one was not pretty)
- Food grater for Baby1 (used maybe 3 times?)
- At least 3 sets of small containers (for storing Baby1′s pureed foods that time; now all neatly stacked up in the cupboard)
- Cookie cutters (2 new sets, washed but not used yet)
- Cute food picks (still in the plastic bag. Extremely cute!!! But haven’t got the chance to making bento for Dear1 yet. Oh yes, there’s still the ‘fake’ seaweed for sushi decoration which we have not tried yet too.)
- Laundry hangers (we have 2 sets of 8 pegs each, and 3 sets of 18 pegs each)
- Tie Hanger (hmm… cannot remember why I bought this at that time)
- Clothes hanger over door (ermm… we realised that the door cannot be closed with this one on, so………..)
- Flower pots (bought 3, but only used 2)
- Various hanging baskets in various sizes (usage varied, depending on where needs what to be hung)
- Shower caps (I have 4 now – blue, yellow, white and pink. ;p)
- Gloves for Baby1 that time when we went Korea (ermm.. we didn’t even take this out to use, just for ‘in case’ situations)
- Round stools for sitting or just putting the feet up (ermm… we have 2 grey, 1 brown, 1 yellow, 1 pink and 1 blue now. Why do we need so many stools in our little 3 room flat!?)
- Bottle brush (when we already have 1 Pigeon one for Baby1′s bottle)
- Racks (total count reveals 5 in the kitchen. Didn’t know that I have bought so many!)
- and the list goes on and on
Things are so cheap at Daiso! I mean, everything is fixed price at $2, so I just have to count the number of items in my basket and it’s easy to know the total price. But many a times, total damage usually exceeds imagination. We would walk into Daiso wanting to get a container for storing some of Dear1′s cards (again), but end up having 1 Christmas tree, 1 more basket for the living room, 1 toothbrush set for Baby1, 1 fork and spoon set for her, a super cute food container for her too, (resist to buy the matching pink bowl, and oh, there’s a plate version too!), (prohibited to get another Christmas decoration because Dear1 refuses to choose one for me), and 1 packet of the caramel corn at check out. Nowadays, I even have to give myself a budget, say $20 if I want to go in to get a $2 item!!!
The lure of Daiso is indeed very big. Things are so pretty in there, and most of them are really useful. But we do have experiences when the quality is poor, like that hamburger food timer which we didn’t manage to get it to work properly ever, and that stainless steel egg mold which got rusty though we only used it once. But even if the item is no good, it’s at most a $2 write off, very cheap indeed ya. ;p
- Dear2
Where is the “Me” 22 October, 2011
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Nowadays, I can hardly tell which nickname is which of my friend on Facebook and on MSN, cos’ their pictures are usually a baby’s face, or of a toddler or 2.
As me and my peers age, we add new members to our family, and our focus all tune to our darling little ones. Status update on Facebook becomes status updates of the happenings and progress of our little ones, and they no longer are “my” updates anymore. Long lists of friends’ comments becomes all talk about ‘”she’s so cute” or “my little one is doing exactly that too!”. I even have a friend who resisted Facebook for many years, only to open an account when his baby boy is recently born so that he can join the Daddies and Mummies community online.
Dear1 and Dear2 also recently each borrowed a couple book from the library recently. Each one of us should have our personal space to prevent burn outs. Need to spend quality time as a family and as a couple to foster strong relationships. With only 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, how to manage the “Me”, “Wife” and “Mummy” at the same time, not to mention “Daughter, Sister, Daughter-in-law, Sister-in-law”, and even ”Friend”!?
Enough is enough. 2 weeks of staying at home and doing the things that I like, I found “Me”, a me that has been put off for some time because of all these daily demands. Without a “Me”, I can hardly fulfill any of the other roles at all, don’t you agree!?
For 2 weeks, I did extensive cleaning of the house, cross stitch, watch tv and video, read, do hula hoop etc. 2 weeks passed in a flash and there’s many more things that I haven’t got the time to complete, but don’t worry, reading about property, reading about photography, washing the fans and more cleaning again, cross stitching, I’ll slot these in among my daily routine life when I get back to work again.
Life is exciting, and should be exciting, for it is a blessing for us to be able to be healthy and well to be able to do all the things that make us happy. And when we are happy, we will be able to pass this happiness on to our love ones around us.
Stay positive!
- Dear2
Collecting board games was fun 12 October, 2011
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I can’t remember when I was first introduced to board games. I seemed to recall it was during my holidays at the end of my third year in undergrad, at my internship company. I recalled a discussion where one colleague was trying to tell us how fun Settlers of Catan was. But I didn’t have the interest to find out more.
The next time was probably during my postgrad years. One of my lab-mate was a close relative to the owner of one of those board game cafes. And so we spend a few happy hour afternoons over the years at the board game cafe playing games. Board games were indeed fun, I thought. But the prices were just too expensive.
Some time later, I would come across this website that sold board games online, typically at 20% off those prices in the brick and mortar stores. Now, that got me excited, and I made my first 2 purchases, Citadels and Pandemic.
When I buy board games, my first consideration was always Dear2, because she would be my most preferred gaming partner. And Dear2 did enjoy playing. She picked up the rules very easily and was able to quickly develop strategies for the games that we were playing. I found it very fun pitting our wits together and having an intellectual tug-o-war.
My “network” of board gaming sites increased, and I discovered many more online board game stores. I even found an active board game meetup group locally where there are tons of discussions going on, not to mention a buy/sell section on the forum.
My little collection started becoming bigger, taking up more and more shelf space. But it also meant that each game got played less and less, and many of them just sat on the shelf for an extended period of time. Not only that, my initial criteria for choosing games expanded. I was not only buying games that I think Dear2 and I will enjoy playing, but I was also buying games I think other people will enjoy playing when they have a chance to play them (<-convoluted logic). And then the whole idea of collecting games became a game in itself. Collecting!
My collection grew to a size of 36, counting only distinct titles, and 50 something if I counted all the expansions too. It was getting out of hand. Our shelf space was quickly diminishing, and some games were still in shrink, waiting to be played. My interest in board games evolved from playing to collecting. Also, I started to have high expectations in my choices of games. Some games that I thought Dear2 will enjoy playing, she did not. And I would be disappointed.
Thinking back, it wasn’t like this when I started. I would have no expectations and just enjoyed playing. But as my collection grew, I too grew overly attached to them, making me more defensive. Dear2 and I had a few fights over this growing hobby/collection of mine.
Well, it has gotten to the point which I feel is out of hand. For me, personally, I am spending too much time, energy and money on board games. For us, it has become a source of conflict in our relationship. Playing board games with Dear2 used to be fun. Not anymore.
So, I am going to put a stop to it. I am not going to buy new board games. And, I will be selling off my collection (if I’m able to find sellers at reasonable prices).
I am released. Cheers to more shelf space, an open mind and an open heart.
-Dear1
P.S. Just wanted to share a video here.
