I hope I got the Chinese characters right. Yesterday was our 过大礼. :D These pictures were taken after the ceremony and are the items that we received in return from Dear2’s mum.
In total, we brought 16 boxes of wedding cakes, 2 bottles of hard liquor, 12 oranges, 1 ang bao to represent roast pork, 1 ang bao to thank Dear2’s mum for all these years of upbringing of Dear2, and 1 ang bao which is supposed to be the wedding gift. The ang bao for the roast pork is a modern replacement for actually ordering the roast pork itself; Dear2’s mum will later use the ang bao to buy some roast pork. The customs is such that Dear2’s mum would need to receive all these items and return a portion of it back to me (groom side). This is to signify that they are not ‘selling’ off the daughter, or somewhere along that line of thought. Traditionally, the groom side is suppose to prepare and present all these items to the bride side. But given our modern way of doing things in Singapore where the lines of diverse modern culture traditions, its quite common for the couple to prepare all these things instead of the parents. So in fact, we (Dear1 and Dear2) bought all the items except for the ang baos which still came from the parents. The wedding cakes were bought from Gin Thye Cake Maker, a well known name in wedding cakes. They have 2 branches, in Sembawang and in Bukit Batok, we bought from the Bukit Batok branch @ $7.50 per box. When buying the cakes, remember to take into account how many boxes the bride’s mum actually need and how many boxes are to-be-returned.
Dear2’s mum returned 4 boxes of cakes, 2 bottles of oranges juice in return for the hard liquor, 8 oranges, 1 box of real roast pork, and 1 ang bao with a portion of the wedding gift. And that’s our simple 过大礼. After the morning events, we drove to a few of Dear2’s relative’s place to deliver the wedding cakes and the wedding invitation cards.
We ate some of the wedding cakes for snack after we reached home. The cakes we ordered were those old times 10 piece cake set that we so frequently see when we were young, and we chose that becos it was so nostalgic. Surprisingly, the cakes were quite good! The cake itself was soft and the cream wasn’t too sweet. Yum yum. We also have the roast pork for dinner, ate some oranges for a healthy lifestyle and drank some orange juice over a nice chit chat at night. See! Nothing goes to waste. :D And that’s the modern way of doing things. Getting married is an expensive thing, especially with a lot of redundancies around, so no point buying a lot of the ceremonial stuffs which goes to waste. At least for us, we want to keep things simple and meaningful, and we are very lucky that we have both our sides’ parents’ blessings on this. Thank you dads and mums!