“I want to be a Mummy when I grow up.” This is Baby1 and Baby2’s recent ambition. Don’t know if I should laugh or cry when I first heard this coming from their mouths!
My first impression when Baby1 first proclaimed that she “wants to be a mummy when she grows up” was, what???? Over these few years, she has alternated between wanting to be a chef (she loves to play cooking!) to a scientist (possibly under the influence of Papa whose job title is a Scientist) to an artist (somehow, she loves drawing too. Dear1 and I are perplexed on where she got all the artistic genes from), so we know that having multiple changing ambitions is pretty much the norm for kids. Recently, she added Mummy to her ambition too. Don’t know if Baby2 was merely copy-cat Jie Jie, Baby2 also proclaimed that she “wants to be a mummy when she grows up” too. -_-‘”
What do Baby1 and Baby2 mean by that? I dare not ask. To their simple-minded hearts, does being a Mummy equates a SAHM who looks after kids? Is a money-generating FTWM not a Mummy? I dare not ask, because if this is the answer, how sad will that be!
Last week during the kids’ evening swimming class and Dear1 got to come home early at 6pm because he’s on course, he commented that he’s glad that we have this arrangement. And when Ah Gong Ah Ma popped by our house on a Tuesday 7.30pm while I was revising Spelling with Baby1, it suddenly dawned upon me that we will not be able to go for weekday swimming lessons nor have the energy or time to revise Spelling at 7.30pm if we are a dual-income family. I can imagine Dear1 and I would probably be goofing down our dinner, 90% brain-dead at 7.30pm on a weekday. Spellings and swimming will have to wait till the weekends. And what about checking the daily homework? Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
I have a new-found admiration for FTWMs, especially those who are coping well with older children. As Baby1 and Baby2 grow up day by day, I find that they need more intellectual, emotional, and of course technical interactions in their waking hours. I don’t think Student Cares or either side Gramps will be able to give as much as what I can provide. I am very thankful to Dear1 for understanding and agreeing with me on this approach, and shouldering the task to be the income-generator while I care for our family. Of course in a job, I hope that Dear1 continues to find passion and fun in what he do.
As for being a Mummy, I want to think that Baby1 and Baby2 are acknowledging that their Mummy is awesome.
- Had been a well behaved, hardworking student in my schooling years
- Enjoyed reading since Primary School
- Am brave, yet not arrogant
- Challenge my fears by bracing myself to face them
- Can be trusted
- Had good grades in school because I did my homework well
- Am athletic
- Always do things carefully
- Have my limitations, but I try my best
- (and I hope to be able to list many more qualities here!)
No Mummy is perfect, but we always want our kids to grow up well, because we made them, so we should love them and guide them to the best of our abilities.