Tuition or not Tuition

It’s scary to see the crowds of parents waiting outside Berries or Tien Hsia or Mindchamps on weekends in the malls. And it’s even scarier when the kids come out and you realised that they are only 6/ 7 year olds!?

It’s becoming a national hobby for Singapore families to send their kids for enrichment classes at a young age.  Traditionally, we have tuition classes for the students who cannot cope with school work from school.  In today’s times, tuition classes are the norm; students go for tuition classes whether or not they are able to cope with school work. Tuition classes become the CCA, the core curricula alongside with the school’s teachings.  And enrichment classes are becoming the necessary necessities if you want to up the ante.

There’s enrichment classes for English, Chinese, Math, Science, creative thinking, speech and presentations, money management, etc etc, and we are talking about classes for pre-schoolers.  Pre-schoolers, mind you!  5, 6 year olds who unknowingly “learn” while “playing” in these lessons.  And of course, for every enrichment lesson, time is spent and money $$$$ is spent just so for the kid to learn more things in a structured, fail-proof environment.

I’m glad that at home, Baby1 and Baby2 are exposed to a bit of all these “enrichment programs” through our daily interactions and free play.  The National Library is a good source of knowledge and information so we get a bit of English, Chinese, Math, Science, Money Management etc enrichment through our nightly bedtime stories. And with not-many toys at home to play with, leaving the kids to play with whatever household items they can lay their hands on, creative thinking and speech and presentations are involved. So I really am not too sure why parents will still send their kids to such costly (time and money) enrichment classes?

So far for this past year, I have been coaching Baby1 in her school work.  I’m not really in line with how the teachers conduct their teachings, and very often I merely supplement the curricula with my own style.  I get Baby1 to explain to me why she does her work in that manner, and she’ll tell me “teacher say blah blah blah, blah blah blah”.  Tada, coaching is done!  I’m glad that Baby1 is attentive in class and is eager to learn. And when these pay off in her high scores in tests and assessments, her confidence gets an even bigger boast and she continues to find joy and fun in learning.

So yeah, I am their tuition teacher, yet I am not a tuition teacher. I supplement their quest for learning by sharing with them my knowledge, experiences and values, and I supplement their joy of learning by making learning fun and “invisible”.

As Baby1 and Baby2 grow older day by day, I hope that I can continue to nurture and guide them in their learning journey, in a cool and calm manner (exams are over now so it might be easy to say that now; wait till we enter the academic year again!!!).  For now, I need to continuously “upgrade” myself so as to better fulfill this role.  Gambatte Mummy!

– Dear2


Swimming for Kids

Dear1 and I believed that swimming is an essential skill that all Singapore kids need to have, for obvious reasons that Singapore is but a small island surrounded by waters.  But we waited till Baby2 was old enough so that we can have both Baby1 and Baby2 in the same swimming class, and save us having to make 2 trips for 2 swimming lessons.  :p

After much procrastination, I finally got around to look for a class for Baby1 and Baby2 at the beginning of the year.  Found a class with Baby1’s friend, at Bukit Batok Swimming Complex which is a two bus-stop walk away for us, and on a weekday evening so that it’s not hot nor crowded and with cheaper entrance fees too.  Fantastic!

We had our first lesson on the first week of April, and before the end of September, Baby1 had already went to take the Stage 2 Exam, skipping Stage 1.  Whoosh!

Baby1 had progressed so much in this 6 months.  Initially, she was the one whom I worried more, as she seemed to have more fear than Baby2.  With their back floats on, Baby2 is the one who felt more at ease splashing around and dipping her head into the waters, but Baby1 was so scared of her head in water that she cried.  And you shake your head knowing that a crying child definitely will find swimming even more laborious.

I tried to be assuring, so I’d waved and smile and nod to them every time they finished their laps.  I tried to help, by making them practice their swimming and breathing techniques at home on dry land.  I tried to be encouraging, and gave them prep-talk all the way while walking from home to pool.  When nothing seemed to work, I pretended to be nonchalant and put a book in front of me and my earphones on and told them that I’ll not be looking at them, so just “follow the teacher’s instructions” and swim.

Somehow, something must have clicked within Baby1; either she finally grasped the realization that “teacher is really always right, so just follow teacher’s instructions closely”, or her water confidence has risen when Teacher “threw” them all into the deep deep pool and made them swim back to the pool edge, or she does not dare to defy the sometimes-stern-sometimes-kind teacher.

I must say, Teacher is a very experienced teacher too.  Most other swimming teachers with smaller kids usually start the lesson at the shallower pool, but our Teacher teaches directly at the big pool.  For Baby1’s Swimming Test, Teacher told us not to let Baby1 know that she’s going for a test, cos he knows that she gets scared when she anticipates for it.  On the actual test day with 10 students lined up in queue, she was half oblivious that it was a test and just did her normal routine following the teacher’s instructions.  And cleared Stage 2, phew!

Baby1 is now officially the best swimmer in our family.  She knows freestyle, breast stroke, thread water, diving, and is learning backstroke now.  Conversely, it’s the turn to be worried about Baby2 now.  She’s still reliant on the back float, and cries almost every lesson.  Time to give her lots of hugs, and lots of practice on dry land.

– Dear2

Home Improvement Program

Finally, we get new toilets!

It’s been exactly 10 years since Dear1 and I moved into our own house.  When we did renovations 10 years ago, our ID mentioned that Bukit Batok should be doing HIP soon, so we did not change our wood door and the toilet windows.  10 years on, and it’s finally our turn to do HIP.  -_-  We also don’t know why we allowed our ID to con us into thinking that having the washing machine discharge pipe at the toilet door is acceptable; we’ve tolerated with NOT being able to close the toilet door for the past 10 years.  @_@

Finally it was our turn to do HIP where we changed our 2 toilets, and what a depressing 12 days that was!  I was getting used to the constant LOUD drilling sounds from the neighbors’ houses, but did not anticipate the huge amount of dust and sand, and the inconveniences of being confined to the sole clean room in the house.  It was a messy, gloomy 12 days, but hey, we’ve experienced some sliver linings too. :)

For the first time in 10 years, I spoke to many more neighbors than I have in the past 10 years.  We asked each other about the progress of our toilets; we groused about the massive cleaning afterwards; we offered toilet paper when we bump into each other at the temporary toilets at the void deck.  Wow.

Baby1 and Baby2 also displayed kindness to Dear1 and I when they offered to exchange their comfy beds with our hard makeshift mattresses.  After the first night, Dear1 and I experienced blue blacks on our hips from sleeping on the floor.  Baby1 offered to exchange beds first, and also persuaded Baby2 to continue sleeping on the floor for the rest of the HIP.  Such sweetness from the kids, aww…..

Being holed up in the kids room the whole time also made me slow down my “fast-paced” SAHM life when there’s literally no housework to do.  I become soooo bored that I started to take out the kids’ coloring book to color.  I also made various beautiful flowers with the kids’ construction blocks everyday.  That’s why they say kids need to be bored, so that they can find creative ways in a limited situation.  Same goes for adults I guess, heehee…

Not cooking for 2 weeks also make me appreciate my own cooking.  I was hung up on cooking homecook meals 5 days a week.  So much effort put in but so little appreciation.  During the HIP, we had no choice but to eat out every meal every day.  Though food is literally right across the road for us, but after 12 days of eating out, homecooked meals is still the best. :p

The best thing that happened because of HIP must be the throwing out of the spare sink that we’ve stored in the storeroom for the past 10 years.  We had an extra sink as we did not install it in the kitchen toilet.  We’ve faithfully kept it in the store for 10 years, you know, just in case we’ll ever need it.  Now that we have a brand new sink, so adieu you sink, and stop taking up precious storeroom space!

It was a difficult 12 days of HIP, but I’m glad that we have gone through it well.  We took care of each other, and the kids were so sweet to Mummy and Papa.  Now our toilets are always bright and privacy included!

– Dear2

Food, Food, Food!

I have a super love-hate relationship with food.

All of us need food; for energy, for nutrients, or for comfort.  How nice if we can eat all the nice and yummy foods all to our hearts content.  But the problem with food is that it adds bulk, and yummy foods tend to create all the health problems.  “You are what you eat” cannot describe this better enough.

As a SAHM now, I tried to take it upon myself to prepare home-cooked meals for Dear1, Baby1 and Baby2.  They say home-cooked foods are healthier as you know what you put into the food.  I say, provided you choose to put only wholly organic, wholly unseasoned, and wholly unprocessed foods onto your plates.  Theoretically, this sounds like an awesome healthy plan; practically, you’ve got no idea how tedious this is!

99% of whole foods taste bland without any seasonings. “Is the food nice?” is a very subjective question, and nowadays I find it meaningless to ask this question. If the food is nice, it’s probably because of the ample amount of seasonings used to bring out the flavour; if the food is not nice, it tends to be healthier because less seasonings are used but most people will shun and go “bleh”.  The most depressing role of a SAHM is when you spend efforts to cook up a healthy meal, only to get rated “thumbs down” by Baby1 and Baby2 for blandness.  You only deal with 3 customers day-in-day-out everyday, and only Dear1 is supportive of natural sweetness, so that’s pretty demoralising KPIs.  Letting the kids eat their favourite wonton mee from the market everyday sounds like a more sure-proof way to get them to finish their meals fast, everyday.

To get the kids to appreciate food (or the efforts used in preparing food), we’ve recently started to get them to say thanks at the dining table. The one thing that I like about Korean culture is, they always say thanks.  Thanks to the person who spent efforts to prepare the food, and being appreciative of the food (I mean, how fortunate that we get food, what’s more yummy food on the table; think about the poor people in third world countries).  The kids are just getting the hang of this.  Hopefully this makes them appreciate food + effort more, and don’t waste food.

Recently I’ve also started to teach Baby1 to cook too.  Since young, she likes to play with cooking toys, so instead of playing, let’s do some real cooking!  It’s heartening to see how eager she wants to do all the hands-on work, and the pride on her face when we say thanks to her (only) when she single-handedly prepared her first ever roast pork long bean rice for dinner.  She’s fascinated watching MasterChef Junior too, but I’m not entirely prepared for her to be one yet; can I trust her to handle all the sharp cutting, hot oils and pans, electrical appliances, as well as food hygiene?

You are what you eat.  I know, I should cook more at home, cos it’s really hard to achieve the healthy plate when you eat out.  It’s so convenient to dabao, especially when food is literally available right across the road.  Hawker food tends to be loaded with more carbo and flavourings, so home-cook can better achieve that healthy plate of half fruits and vegetables, one quarter proteins, and one quarter carbo.  PM also says we need to tackle the problem of diabetes, so I guess we really need to change our mindset of eating bowlfuls of rice/ noodles, and exercise more.

– Dear2



I came across a video on “Grit” recently and was blown away by it!

Grit. What I know of grit is like dirt, sand. But Teacher-turned-Psychologist Dr Duckworth singled out the defining factor between successful children/ people and the others is, not IQ nor talent, but grit. Grit is motivation to achieve your long term goals, day in day out, not for weeks or months, but for years; to achieve the future that you want.

At the end of Term 2, I’d blogged that both Baby1 and Baby2 were highly praised by their teachers during their respective PTMs. Dear1 and I are not worried about both our little girls coping in schools, because both them enjoy learning and enjoy being one of the best students in their class. We are not sure if we have been doing some things right, or what right things; nevertheless, Dear1 and I are just chill parents when it comes to our kids’ learning.

Especially for Baby1 now that she’s in Primary One, she strives to get 100 marks for all her spellings, and she always try to get high marks for all her tests and assessments. In the academic scene, sometimes I do worry, what if she gets 100 marks in lower Primary, but grades drop when she goes to the higher levels? There has been so much press about the stress of our Singapore kids in this education system, so I want to constantly mantra myself “the joy of learning” and not kill it.

So for Baby1, she enjoys getting high marks – Good. She enjoys being the Monitress – Good. She’s looking to be a Little Prefect next year – Good. She had some difficulty in swimming lessons earlier, but now she’s looking forward apprehensively to every swimming lesson to learn new strokes – Good. She doesn’t like piano as it’s really getting more difficult now, but she got a Merit in her recent first piano exam, and she’s looking to get a Distinction next year – Good. She even calculated that she could get her Grade 8 by the time she’s in Secondary One – Good (LOL).

Grit. No matter how much a parent pushes or force her child to learn or do something, if the child does not want to do it, it is futile. The parent can force the child to write a whole page of Self-Reflections, but if the child does not feel remorse, he does not learn. The parent can force the child to write 100 times corrections, but if the child’s heart is not on learning the correct spelling, he still does not learn the spelling.

Self Motivation. The child needs to want to do it right, or get it right. The child needs to WANT IT.

So, how to make the child want it? In the video, Dr Duckworth says she’s unsure, but the idea of Growth mindset seems to work well. Essentially, it’s helping your child see that:

1) You need practice, and practice makes perfect (aka Perseverance and Effort)
2) You may need to overcome challenges/ failures (aka Resilience)

Let’s continue to nurture our children.

– Dear2

Holiday Inn @ Batam

Oh, what a 4D3N getaway to Batam for our June holidays!

Dear1 and I have never been to Batam before (can you believe it!?), plus we wanted a relaxing holiday for this June holidays (relaxing holiday means no trip planning, no exploration, just plain relax and do nothing), PLUS Batam was supposed to be our 10 year wedding anniversary getaway last year (but we decided that a 2D1N trip for just the two of us was too costly, hence we replaced it with a indulgent dinner at PS Cafe instead), so here we went!

Day -3:

  • Baby1 had her first piano exam.  It was soooo nerve-wrecking for her!

Day -1:

  • Baby1 had her piano recital.  We’ve planned the Batam trip to be right after her piano exam and recital, so that she can wind down after that, sounds like a good plan! :p

Day 1:

  • 1030: We left home and took 188R which expressed all the way to Harbourfront
  • 1110: Reached Harbourfront and we had Yakun for an early lunch.  Mothercare was having sale so Mummy had to buy some essentials, heehee!
  • 1310: Cleared the customs.  Wow, what a breeze, basically nothing to clear at all.
  • 1410: Finally the ferry departed and Baby1 and Baby2 KOed quite immediately.  We took Sindo which will stop at Sekupang first, then at Waterfront Terminal. The ferry was blasting aircon, and there wasn’t many passengers at all.

View of Waterfront Ferry Terminal, it is that traditional looking building on the right.

  • 1535 SGT (= 1435 Batam time): Reached Holiday Inn @ Waterfront, which is really a 2 min drive from the terminal.  The hotel and rooms were clean and very spacious, albeit a bit old-fashioned in style.  To us, cleanliness is most important.
  • 1600: Brought the kids to Panda Kids Club to play in the spacious playroom while Dear1 and I figure out what’s for dinner.  We wanted to order delivery from Bella Italia, but we could not fulfill the minimum $100 for them to deliver over.  Went out to have a look at the row of shops beside the ferry terminal.  Delima, which was recommended on the Internet, looked too shabby.  Headed back to hotel’s Terrace Cafe.

Our 2 bedroom suite at Holiday Inn Resort.

  • 1800: Kids dine free!  Each adult portion costed >$10, and the kids’ portion was very small.  But overall the food was nice in a quiet environment.
  • 1900: Karaoke! We booked the minimum 1 hour package, and got 1 more hour free for IHG members.  The entire system was in Korean, and Mandarin and English songs were sooooo limited.  Baby1 took some time to get used to singing; she was hogging the mic towards the end!  Baby2 warmed up to the mic immediately, but after that decided that she preferred to dance while Jie Jie and Mummy/Papa hogged the mics.  Papa managed to find the titles of a couple of the Frozen OSTs and we had lots of fun singing to these familiar songs!

We had a great time karaoke! We even managed to find some popular OST from Frozen, Despicable Me, Tangled, and Zootopia.

Day 2:

  • 0630: Rise and shine!  For the first time in all our holiday trips, we decided to include hotel breakfast for this trip, and luckily we did!  There’s nothing outside the hotel, the hotel’s breakfast buffet spread was sumptuous and decent, and we do not have to rush to go out early in the morning every day.  Thumbs up!
  • 0800: Pool opens from 8am till 9pm.  Hmm, but by 8am, the sun’s pretty hot, and why is the water slide still not open!?  Anyway, all four of us had fun playing with our water guns, sitting on the banana boat, and just splashing around in the pool. By 9.30, the sun’s pretty hot, so it’s back to room to shower.

Papa ordered a latte for breakfast and it was served with a fancy foam art. Nice!


The Panda Kids Club was usually empty, which meant we had the place all to ourselves!

  • 1030: Went back to Panda Club to play.  Today, we saw more children, probably about 8 others (there was only 1 yesterday and she was heading home today).  There’s supposed to be face painting during this time on a Sunday, but the attendant did not appear at all.  The staff did appear yesterday, and only after we asked did she gave us the Panda Club Program Sheet.  And only after we asked again did she bring out the materials for the Activity which was Paper Weaving.
  • 1130: We cycled over to Dragon’s Inn for dim sum, which was supposed to be the best Cantonese Dim Sum in Batam.  Very decent dim sum and not salty at all.  Oh no, Baby2 struggled to keep her eyes open, means it’s time for her afternoon nap.
  • 1300: Mummy went off for a 1 hour Body Scrub at the Tea Tree Spa while Papa stayed in the room and watch while the kids napped.  Mummy came out sparkling smooth and soft, bling bling!
  • 1415: Now it’s Papa’s turn for a 1 hour relaxing Balinese/Javanese Massage.
  • 1700:  Rise and shine for all 4 of us (Mummy and Papa got sooo tired from the massages too!).  Went over to the Games Lounge where we played table soccer, chess, darts and pool (kids not allowed for the last 2).
  • 1800: It’s dinner at the Terrace Cafe again where Kids dine Free, heehee.
  • 1900: Back to room and watch tv, bath and prepare for the night.  Mummy and Papa took turns to nurse Baby2 who had developed a fever since this afternoon, oh no.

Day 3:

  • 0630: Wakey wake up!
  • 0700: Time for breakfast!  Baby2 enjoyed the soya milk while Baby1 munched on cornflakes.  What simple delicacies for them!

A view of the main pool that we played at every morning after breakfast, a relaxing holiday indeed.


Papa and Baby2 chilling out at the pavilion, watching mummy and Baby1 playing on the banana boat.

  • 0830: Since Baby2 was running a temperature, she cannot go swimming today.  Mummy and Baby1 had one-to-one time splashing in the pool while Papa and Baby2 lounged around in the pavilion and at the poolside benches.  Just before we came out from the pool, we allowed Baby2 to join Jie Jie with the water guns cos she looked so left out.
  • 1000: Shower time again.
  • 1100: Took the hotel shuttle bus to Nagoya Hills shopping mall.  Normal guests will need to pay a fee, but we had it complimentary as Papa is an IHG member.  We had initially wanted to go yesterday, but the shuttle bus was already fully booked when we checked in on Day 1.

Baby1 and Baby2 gaming away at the arcade at Nagoya Hills.

  • 1130: Reached Nagoya Hills and had A&W curly fries and waffles with ice cream.  Yummy! After lunch, we walked around and found that Nagoya Hills really did seem quite boring.  Mummy bought some cheap pyjamas (SGD 4.80 each!) and dresses from this big clothing store Sunboss where shoppers buy clothes in baskets.
  • 1420: Time to force the kids to take their afternoon nap.  We wanted to go to Caffeine Cafe but couldn’t find it anywhere! (Turns out that it was along the shop-houses across the street!)  Decided to settle down in Bistro Godiva where there’s an aircon area and tried to coerce the kids to sleep on the cushy sofa.  Eventually we gave up.  Why don’t they sleep!?
  • 1520: Okay, let’s get moving then.  We decided not to enter the Hypermart as Security says we need to deposit our big diaper bag.  Went over to the Pharmacy next door and picked up 4 individual packs of Cool Patch (they don’t sell in bigger packs).  After that, we got SGD 5 worth of tokens and played many games in the Arcade.  We could have purchased $10 and get $5 bonus, but I don’t think we can play $15 in the rather small arcade.  Baby1 had lots of fun playing Air Hockey, Hammer Weasels, some punching fish game, Drums, Shoot Basketball, and even Car Racing, while Baby2 was contented with just riding on the elephant and the train. Mummy had fun with Drums too! For $5 in tokens, we even accumulated 88 points which we exchanged for a total of 4 pretty hair clips.  Not a bad deal after all!

We arrived for an early dinner at Wey Wey seafood so that we could return to our resort before dark.

  • 1700: After getting a box of some Batam Layer Cake (aka kueh lapis), we hailed a cab and set off for Harbour Bay which is just a 5 minutes drive away.  The cab driver agreed to wait for us and drive us back to Holiday Inn after dinner. There’s a whole row of seafood restaurants here, and we settled on Wey Wey.  The seafood here is really nice! By 6pm, many more diners had arrived to dine al-fresco beside the seas in the setting sun, how ambient!
  • 1820: Dinner done and we headed back to hotel so that the feverish Baby2 can have an early night.

Day 4:

  • 0730: We slept in a bit this morning and had a later breakfast, hoping to catch the water slide when it will finally start at 10am later.
  • 0900: Today, it’s Papa’s turn to go swimming with Baby1.  Baby2’s fever had finally subside overnight, but we didn’t want her to catch a cold. During breakfast, Papa chatted with the staff and found out that we could have asked the Pool Staff to turn on the waters at the slide.  ‘_”  So we did that, and Baby1 had lots of fun with Papa going down the gushing water slide while Mummy took the trishaw and peddled Baby2 around the hotel’s compound.  Afterwards, all 4 of us took turns on the trampoline beside the pool.

A last look from our room balcony of our relaxing getaway~

  • 1015: Shower time, and we even finished watching The Incredibles on Disney Channel while waiting for Check Out at 12noon.  Throughout these 4 days, the kids watched lots of Disney Channel whenever there’s free time in the room, something which we usually do not allow when we are at home.  :p
  • 1230: The hotel shuttled us to the ferry terminal where we sat there waiting for the ferry until 1.20pm. Once onboard the ferry, both kids KOed immediately again, heehee…
  • 1600 SGT: Reached Singapore and grabbed 5+1 Mr Bean pancakes before taking bus 188 home.  We just needed to reach home before 5pm to be in time for swimming class at 5.45pm.
  • 1715: Bus reached destination!
  • Total cost of getaway: $1217.40

It was a simple holiday this time.  Not much trip planning, no exploration, no trying to squeeze in too many things to do or too many places to visit; just relax and enjoy the simple things with Baby1 and Baby2.  We hope that their sights have widened yet a bit more, and their childhood fills with many more happy experiences with Mummy and Papa.

– Dear2

Our Girls~~

On the last day of Term 2, it seemed that all the parents are somewhere attending their children’s Parents-Teachers Meetings.  Dear1 and I attended Baby1 and Baby2’s PTMs too, and I can only say, both our girls are so good~~

Dear1 and I know that Baby1 and Baby2 are both good girls.  They listen to what we tell them, they obey our instructions, albeit frequently making our blood boil.  I sometimes have to remind myself and Dear1 that they are both still kids.  Just 7 years old and 5 years old, how did Dear1 and I behaved when we were that age!?  So when it comes to Parents-Teachers meetings, after the first meeting in their new childcare centre, Dear1 and I decided that it was okay to skip the subsequent ones, cos we know that Baby1 and Baby2 were doing very okay in school.

For Baby2’s Parent-Teacher meeting this year, both her Chinese and English teachers were full of praises for her.  Observant, serious in learning, nice handwriting, independent, quietly does her work, can do most of the work on her own.  She is surely the best student in her Kindergarten One class of 14 kids.  Dear1 and I came out of the room beaming as very proud parents.

For Baby1, on the last school day of Term 2, she:

  1.  was announced to be the Class Monitress
  2. topped the class with the highest score (again) in Term 2, and
  3. came home with a Report Book of all Grade 1s and As (except for PE, B) for her SA1

OMG.  This is the child who makes my blood boil at least 3 times a day (during breakfast, lunch and dinner for eating so slow!), and this is the child who I frequently scold for always being so playful and easily distracted.

On the last day of Term 2, we also counted the money that Baby1 has saved in this half year.  $40.10!  Considering that Baby1’s pocket money is $1.30 per recess, and she spends $1 on a meal, Baby1 has not been spending her money on any unnecessary things at all. Wow.

Actually, Baby1 is really a good girl too.  From the Parents-Teachers meeting, both her Form Teacher and Chinese Teacher were full of praises for her too.  She does her work independently and seriously, and she’s careful in her work.  Basically, both teachers have nothing much to worry about her.

Why do children always seem to behave so differently in school and at home!?  At home, I seem to be constantly nagging at her, “be quick”, “do your work seriously”, “keep the toys”, “why is this thing here?”, or at Baby2 “drink water”, “one quarter”.  I constantly feel like I am on REPEAT REPEAT REPEAT mode.  But in school, both Baby1 and Baby2 are such darlings!

Love Them. Understand Them.  Forgive Them.  Grow with Them.

After reading “Search Inside Yourself”, I have the above new mantra.

I do not want myself to be a kiasu parent, and I do not want myself to be a Tiger Mum.  We want Baby1 and Baby2 to grow up in a loving and happy family.  And we need to remind ourselves that both our girls are so lovely and lovable, so “Love them, understand them, forgive them, and grow with them.”

I love you, Baby1 and Baby2.

And I love you, Dear1.  Muck!

– Dear2